Conflict Resolution
- William Vogel
- Aug 29, 2017
- 2 min read
Conflict Resolution. Conflict and just not getting along seems to be a growing challenge everywhere we look today. Since the beginning of time, there has been conflict in our sinful world. It extends from the boardroom to the church room. Ego, opinion and deeply held beliefs. How do we resolve conflict? 1. Everyone in the conflict needs to look at themselves first. The people throwing the rocks and the people being hit by the rocks. What is my part in this conflict? Do I have a blind spot? Am I missing something? Do I need to change? " Search my heart oh God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way of the everlasting ." KJV 2. Ask Gods Holy Spirit to reveal sin or any part you as one of combative parties are playing that opposes the will of God. The Bible in Romans 12:18 says, "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peacefully with all." ESV John 14 is a fabulous book to read; it helps us with the truth of who we really are. In the end a true Christian should not fight for his rights, but for God's glory and the truth of the matter is, Gods will can always be done, though not always in a way that glorifies Him. Two examples of men who saw what was happening to them in two different ways. Both facing great injustice. Jacob said, "woe is me all is against me." Genesis 42 Paul the apostle said, "all things work together for good to them who love God, to them who are according to His purpose." Romans 8:28 Listen and then ask how yourself, how can I be a part of the solution. Watch out do not seek the destruction of the other party no matter what they are saying about you. Pride is dangerous. It will lead to a fall. If it is all about you, you will lose. Most times the parties involved communicate through their emotions with threats, or by pushing the other in the conflict. Conflict can also cause one or both parties to withdraw and reject. The answer is to forgive. Resolution to heated conflict is to release the human urge to punish. Conflict pokes it head up when people disagree over values, motivation, perceptions, ideals, or desires.
A. Listen to the reason the other party is in the conflict. B. Make sure you understand fully what the other party is saying. C. Ask questions if needed. 1. Why? 2. What are hoping for? Here a list of what to consider when conflict arises. D. Affirm each other in the conflict for wanting to look for solutions. 3. Look at the big picture, the whole of what you want to achieve. What is the best option to achieve the best for the best - for the dream or goal of either party. Matthew 18: 15-20 provides the frame work for working through a conflict with a Christian. Both parties must go before God to get His perspective. Remember, we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but instead against principalities and powers in the heavenly realms. Be spiritually alert!